WITH the rose-tinted glasses on, it can be hard to spot the red flags in a new partner. But one dating expert has revealed the eight red flags you need to be on the hunt for which could reveal if your partner is a narcissist.
Tina Wilson, British founder of Wingman, reveals how narcissistic traits range from having an unreasonable high sense of their own importance and seeking attention and admiration.
If it seems too good to be true, than it probably is, Tina reveals narcissists often become everything their new partner wants in the early stages. This includes being attentive, caring, slightly jealous, and always present or thinking of you, even answering texts and calls whenever you need them. Beware though, this doesn’t last long.
If you find yourself second-guessing yourself or versions of events, you need to pay attention to what your partner is saying, according to the dating pro. A true narcissist will never admit they are wrong.
A healthy relationship is based on compromise and bringing out the best in each other. But if you find it brings out insecurities or changes to the detriment of yourself, it might be time to take space and think about how things are going.
Narcissists love proving they are the best and will often use terms such as people think I’m great. Try talking about your own accomplishments to see how your partner acts. If the conversation suddenly shifts to bring them back into the spotlight, then they are likely displaying narcissistic behaviors and are not celebrating you.
If they constantly tell you incredible stories of their connections or experiences but get explosive when you question them, it could be a sign they aren’t telling you the full truth. Approach the conversation calmly and consider checking social media for answers.
No social media presence could also be a cause for concern. Often, narcissists make you reliant on their opinion or memory of events, wrapping you in with their attentiveness to secure you. However, they may begin to show their true self by criticizing your behavior or the way you dress to make you question yourself.
If you sense things are moving into gaslighting territory, communicate and set your boundaries early on. Speaking to friends and family as soon as possible and maintaining a support network is crucial.
Projection is a clear sign something is wrong, but it isn’t always easy to spot when you’re in the midst of it. If they keep accusing you of upsetting them when there is no basis to their accusations, then you are likely dating a narcissist and should walk away as they see themselves as perfect.
Most narcissists have an ego that is off the scale and believe that no one else is really at their level. They may go through partners quickly when they are no longer useful or can’t get away with their lies anymore.
If you’ve become withdrawn from friends and family, it could be a warning sign. Narcissists often encourage you to withdraw for their own advantage. Instead of pushing them away, talk to real friends as they want what’s best for you.
Remember, it’s normal to want to spend more time with a new partner, but completely shutting off from the outside world is usually a red flag.
In conclusion, being aware of these eight red flags can help you identify if your partner is a narcissist. It’s important to prioritize your well-being and take action if you notice these warning signs. Seek support from friends and family, set boundaries, and consider walking away from a relationship that may be detrimental to your happiness.
