Being bullied can have severe consequences for the victims, leading to anxiety, depression, and social isolation. Bullying is a mean-spirited behavior displayed by individuals with more power or status, targeting those with less power or status. Bullies can cause harm through physical aggression, spreading rumors, or even sexual harassment. A youth psychology expert sheds light on why bullies engage in such behavior and suggests ways to address the issue.
According to Dr. Sara Goldstein, a professor of child and adolescent development, people often learn to bully others by observing aggressive behavior modeled by others. Media, including music, video games, TV shows, and movies, can perpetuate and even reward bullying behavior, influencing individuals to imitate what they see. Family dynamics can also play a role, as children growing up in homes lacking kindness and full of conflict may perceive such behavior as acceptable. Additionally, associating with a group of friends who bully can make some individuals more likely to engage in bullying themselves, as they strive to impress their peers.
Bullies may engage in harmful behavior for various reasons. Some seek to boost their self-esteem by putting others down, while others resort to intimidation because it has proven effective in the past. Some individuals struggle with anger management and find it difficult to control their emotions, leading to lashing out. There are also cases where bullying serves as a means of gaining an advantage, such as spreading rumors about colleagues in the workplace to hinder their chances of promotion.
Fortunately, there are strategies to combat bullying. If someone is being bullied, it is crucial to seek support from a trusted adult, such as a parent, teacher, or counselor. Schools often have policies in place to address bullying and protect victims. In the workplace, victims can turn to human resources or a neutral supervisor for guidance and support, knowing that they are legally protected against harassment and discriminatory behavior. Discussing the situation with friends or family members who are not directly involved can also provide much-needed support.
Engaging in coping activities, such as exercise or going for a relaxing walk, can benefit individuals dealing with bullying. Furthermore, there are helplines and crisis text lines available for immediate assistance. The Crisis Text Line can be accessed by texting 741741, while the Stop Bullying Now Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 offers support. Additionally, the national Suicide & Crisis Lifeline can be reached by dialing 988.
It is essential to understand that bullying is not acceptable under any circumstances. It should not be dismissed as normal behavior or attributed to being too sensitive. Seeking help and support is the best way to combat bullying effectively.
In conclusion, bullying has serious consequences for victims, and understanding the motivations behind this harmful behavior is crucial. By addressing the issue head-on and seeking support, both children and adults can combat bullying and create a safer, more inclusive environment for all.
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Note: Dr. Sara Goldstein is a professor in the Department of Human Development and Family Sciences at the University of Delaware. The Conversation is an independent and nonprofit source of news, analysis, and commentary from academic experts.
